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15 March 2010 @ 10:23 am
I have been friends with thassa for years on IRC. We traded hugs online most every day, and sometimes got to talking about things or shared addictive websites. He introduced me to several web comics and http://tvtropes.org .

A few weeks ago, we noticed we hadn't heard from him in a while, so I sent off a postcard with a screen shot of my IRC window, with all of us wondering where he had gone and hoping he was well. I had his address because I sold him a couple of old hard drives in 2008 for cheap, and the name "Mar Deveaux." I also did a web search for that name, but I turned up nothing.

Friday night, someone asked me if I had heard anything back. I had not. I started to worry. I searched Google News for: Calgary Deveaux, and found news articles about a man who had been beaten nearly to death and left in the snow. He had died soon after he was found, and dental records had been used to confirm his identity. The name was Marcus Deveaux.

I searched around for a while before pasting a link to a news article in IRC. I wanted to be wrong. One news article mentioned that Marcus would have turned 38 in March, and that matched up with thassa's birthday in his Livejournal. Some people keep logs, and the last thassa said anything was on February 8, the day of the murder. He had not mentioned that he was going anywhere, and he was such a regular in the channel that that alone would have been surprising. There was plenty of shock and denial from everyone.

I finally slept about 5am to 9am, and then I called a number I had looked for Marcus's mother. I confirmed the address I had in Calgary matched. That was it. Our dear friend is gone.

Here is a post made by another IRC friend:


I am a mess right now. Hugs would be appreciated. I will miss you greatly, thassa.
Current Mood: depresseddepressed
Buttonsupersniffles on March 15th, 2010 06:42 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs!!
mizuno_youkomizuno_youko on March 15th, 2010 07:14 pm (UTC)
I miss her greatly, too.
Hein: Cryingfub on March 15th, 2010 07:58 pm (UTC)
OMG, that is terrible! It's especially tough that you had to find out in this way.

My condolences. ;_;
Rahienrahien on March 15th, 2010 11:21 pm (UTC)

I wanted to thank you for finding this out for everyone. I know it must have been terrible, it is terrible. But even if it is, I'm grateful that she didn't just vanish and none of us ever knew why.

Thank you.
I miss her too.
repura on March 15th, 2010 11:54 pm (UTC)
Dude, that's horrible! I'm so so sorry. :(
Texxtexxgadget on March 16th, 2010 08:51 pm (UTC)
Your loss

This reminds me a bit too much of Matt Shepard who was killed in Wyoming.
While Calgary is north of the border, its is one of the more "redneck"
portions of otherwise liberal Canada. The similarities of a severe beating
and being left in the snow are striking. Both being outside of usual male
convention does not escape my notice.

While this is upsetting, I encourage you to remember the fun times, and
have a toast to them from time to time. Im sure your friend would
appreciate being missed, but I doubt your friend would want you to be overly sad. Make it a pint of something really good.

A guy I grew up with all the way through school & scouts and his wife were murdered a couple years back. It turns out it was her crazy brother.
The nut insisted on representing himself and passed the sanity hearing.
This last fall, justice prevailed. He did a good job of convicting

Hopefully this miscreant who took your friend will meet a similar end.
It DOES happen.

Meanwhile, remember the fun chats.
As long as one is remembered, one isnt completely dead.
Azuma Hazukiazuma_hazuki on March 17th, 2010 06:30 am (UTC)
Why would anyone DO this?! Uuuuuugh. I found out through the shoujoai.com forums. The really squicky part of this is the fact that they had to use dental records to figure out who he is, ugh >< It's always the good ones...